Emotional freedom to me means that I have the ability to create what I want; that in any situation, I have the freedom to choose.
To choose how I react, what I do, where I go, what I say, how I think.
It is living in an abundance state where I know that I am truly free. It is understanding that you don’t need a permission slip to make a choice; that you don’t need to wait for anyone to decide for you; that you don’t depend on the time of day, the weather, the year, the economy, the government, or any outside circumstances to choose what you really, really, really want.
I know what you’re thinking: easy to say!
You are right, it is easier said than done. But what has made it simple for me to make choices is being grounded in my core values.
I am so clear about what is important to me that it just makes it easier to make choices, especially the tough ones.
When you can measure every decision against your core values, the ability to choose becomes effortless.
This is true even when faced with conflicting decisions.
When I chose to go to a convention and miss my son’s birthday, the core value that I chose at that time was security/freedom. But I didn’t just choose that over my son; I shared that decision with him and explained why, so he can fully understand and support me.
When I passed on invitations to go on a girls’ weekend so I could watch my kids play hockey, it was because the value of family trumped the value of fun at that particular time.
You see, when you understand that values are like a deck of cards and you have the freedom to play any card at any time, this will empower you.
Just like any other skill, you must learn to pivot from one value to another. This will only happen once you’re clear on what is important to you.
I have been using a simple system every year to identify what my core values are at any particular time. I make a list of everything that is important to me and choose the top five. Then, on a scale of 1 to 10, I rate how much of each value do I currently have.
That helps me understand what I have to work on to fulfill those values.
When you are clear on what is important to you, when you feel it to the core, making choices becomes easy and simple, no drama, no regrets.
This is when you know you have emotional freedom!
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